THOSE KIND HEARTED WORLD KILLED ME!

(This post is based on a real incident occurred at Madhurai, India. I made a surrealistic version to make the concept clear for my readers. This is a subject matter to think over. Narrator here is a dead soul from heaven.)

“When you point one finger at others, there are three fingers pointing back at you”.

I was 4 days old, when my father and grandmother poisoned me to death for being a girl child. I am not the first in my land to get murdered for the same. I had a senior who was killed after 30 days of birth. The kind hearted virtuous, so called sane people cross questioned and criticised the accused for doing such an inhuman brutality towards a 4 days old infant. I wonder, is that true that my father and grandmother were the real culprits?

They murdered me. Not for who I am, but for what I am. In the name of my gender and the possible headaches my gender create to a poor family who already had 3 girl children prior to me.

They were actually expecting a boy. And was terribly terrified to hear my girlish cry. It’s not that they hate girls. It’s that they are poor.

I found no practical fault in my father or grandmother. They were really forced to kill me. They were pressurized by the stereotypical norms of moral society. “Girls are expensive. You want to provide them with gold and money for her marriage. Within few years they will belong to some other family and you gain nothing investing on them but priceless love. What can love cultivate? Nothing in the land of poverty.

STOP OBJECTIFYING WOMAN

This is what I have to tell to the crowd of over moralistic human soul who are criticising the deeds of my father and grandmother. When a man appears on the wedding hall in a neat shirts and dhoti with little affordable perfume why should you expect girls to be with several kilograms of gold with over embellished outlook? They are just exhibited as an object. The eyes of all the people stray amidst the number of bangles and thickness of gold necklace she wore. They check with much curiosity for the 916 quality of ear rings, anklets and all the possible ornaments. They weave their visionary senses through the most fine silk of cloth she wore guessing it’s price tag. And now women is just an object. Nothing more nothing less.

This attitude of well esteemed, sympathetic good people is the real cause of female foeticide, infanticide etc. Poor can’t afford to have too many girls for the same. Because they are poor, they want some masculine blood who will look after them at their old age providing them the daily bread, or else they will die out of starvation at their senile stage. Girls are the ones who must be sent to other families and had no practical use in bringing them up in a struggling poor background of a starving family.

I just want to conclude that the people who are ready to put the age old punishment sequences refering the rotten pages of Indian Penal Code must atleast do something to stop objectification of woman in every means. They will get married without overweighing ornaments. They will get married without direct or indirect type of dowries. What has to change is the orthodoxical view of the society. Change the age old tradition and thoughts. If 100 out of millions are ready to stop the objectification of woman, that change will slowly infect the society and make them to think in a more positive way.

If you are not ready to change your own deadly views and voice yourself against objectification of female, you have no right to punish anyone for their helplessness.

(Remember if I was a boy they must have had the best days in their life. They are imprisoned for giving birth to a girl child in a poor family and for murdering it. Again they concluded a girl is a curse.)

To the moralistic soul who showered abusive words on my father and grandmother…“When you point one finger at others, there are three fingers pointing back at you“.


TUSHARA OLIVIA

110 thoughts on “THOSE KIND HEARTED WORLD KILLED ME!

  1. Reading this gives me goosebumps Tushara
    Female foeticide and dowry etc are a sad reality of our society. They simply forget, that their so-called male child, is also born from female and they also need females as mothers, wives, daughters, know if a girl is killed, whom they would marry, and produce a male child.
    do you know how it all started, it is not the same case some 50-60 years back, the scenario was different πŸ˜…
    Well, very nicely written, Thank you for putting up it.😊😊

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    1. Thanks a lot dear Era for reading and giving such an awesome thought on this subject. Each points that you told are getting resonated in my mind. That’s 100% true and an unpleasant reality too. Who can change this world! And as you told, the situation was not the same years back and it was all changed now. Feeling extremely happy to read your words of appreciation. Much love β™₯οΈπŸ˜πŸ’•πŸ₯°πŸ˜Š

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  2. Well written dear Tushara. It’s sad to read these incidents are still happening in our country even though our government is trying to give education to girl children and lots of opportunities for women to work and earn well. I really think that poor families and societies like that should be educated of family planning in the first place and next about the opportunities for girls to live a good life.

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    1. You told the core point. It’s true, they must be given a well organised family planning tips or else they will certainly continue to see girl children as a burden. You must have seen how the wedding ceremonies occur in our place. Even the rich people says it is expensive to conduct the marriage of a girl. Let’s hope people will get educated with the best possible knowledge of family management. Thanks a lot Krishna chechi for stopping by and sharing your ideas.πŸ€©πŸ’žπŸ˜ƒ

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  3. Everything is true as it can be. But reading this gave me goosebumps along with all kinds of emotions.
    No matter the reason, if you gave birth to a child it becomes your responsibility as an adult to care and love it no matter the gender or disabilities. Ugh… 😭

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    1. Thanks a lot for your cute remarks Jenny.πŸ€©πŸ’–πŸ’πŸ₯°That’s exactly what I want to say. Once you became a parent of a child, it’s 100% your responsibility, whatever the gender of the child may be. People find it difficult to breed a girl child because in our country to arrange a marriage for a girl is really expensive. They also believe that after marriage the girl belong to other family and there is no need of giving her their whole. I have heard poor families saying this again and again. How is marriages in your country. Is it expensive?

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      1. Yes, I heard about Indian girl’s situation about marriage dowry and all. But your words still sting. After the marriage, the girl shouldn’t belong to anyone but herself, or to her husband if she chooses. Bottomline is that she should only belong to the one she chose to belong. Every person is equal.
        Marriages in my country is all decided by the couple. How expensive is also up to them. My younger sister just married her boyfriend of 7 years 2 months ago. It’s a civil wedding with only close friends so it wasn’t expensive for them. They paid for it together. My parents only join the party πŸ˜„

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      2. Oh, that’s really interesting. You can choose the way you what to get married! Your parents are lucky to have a daughter like her. She creates no burden to her parents. Awesome. Thanks a lot Jenny for sharing your part. It adds up to the soul of this post. 😍πŸ₯°β€οΈπŸ’“πŸ’ž

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      3. It’s pretty normal in countries I’ve been for the couple to pay for their own wedding, but yeah, my parents are pretty lucky. She’s currently the family’s breadwinner. Without me and the brother between us to be with the rest of our siblings, she somehow shoulder that oldest sister role for me. I got to remember to give her a tight hug next I return. And maybe a lot of kisses too ☺
        Have a great day Olivia… I’m off to bed (in the morning) sigh πŸ˜‘ again πŸ˜‚

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  4. Waaw….. the way you started you journey…. and the way you stopped…. was amazing…. first of all i would like to say that you are a vivid writer….. you know where what you have say and where not… a writer should know this….
    The poor families genuinely they don’t want a girl child you know… bcz at the time of marriage how will they arrange the dowry…. bcz you know the demand of men… for dowry…… some of them are against actually who are the real men … i just think that if a boy or his family demanding for dowry…. its only mean that give us money then only we will give our boy to you and your girl…. so in today’s era marriage is not a marriage itself it has become business…. today. Everything is based on mind actually….
    There are many medical clinic… over almost every area i guess for the poors.. for any type of medical issue.. including family’s planning also. And alot of things….
    I don’t know why there is so much of mentally regarding girls…. if a baby is girl then kill it, if she is a girl she can’t wear this kind of dress, if you are a girl you should not speak alot, if you are a girl you can’t be angry, if you are girl yiu shouldn’t use mobile, if you are a girl you can’t go out, if you are a girl you can’t sit like this or can’t be lying like this on bed. … oh god many many things… a girl has to face you knw… there is nothing for boys…. no rules…. that’s why everyone want a boy nor a girl…. they themselves made rules and don’t want girl.

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    1. First of all thanks a lot dear Sonal for such a great remark.πŸ˜πŸ’žπŸ’ You took time to read and share your thoughts it’s something special reallyπŸ˜ƒβ€οΈ. The words that you told are to be thought over by the stereotyped society who objectify woman and put much pressure upon her saying many types of does and don’ts. I always felt like..hey why you guys are behind girls saying do this and do that, don’t do this and don’t do that! Educate your boys by saying woman are not to be abused physically and mentally, they are to be respected. Indian English writer Kamala Markandeya in her work Nectar in a Sieve, wrote about a middle class, fairly rich family becoming poor after getting their 5 girls married This fear of objectification of woman is really threatening that every poor family could find girl child as a burden. And as you told, family planning! I wonder whether our country has considered it serious to educate poor about that.😰 Let’s hope everything will change and become better😊. Once again thanks a lot Sonal for this cutest comment. This really made my day.πŸ’–πŸ₯°πŸ€©

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      1. I got a chance to say my point through this article, I think it was my good luck .., everything is written right in your article, pain can be felt at all. Those who are mothers of males, they should understand that after all she was also a girl at a time, she would also be afraid of dowry, now either she does it because we had come, so we had also brought dowry. Everything depends on you. You have written very beautiful, I hope we will continue to read your beautiful articles in the same way and you will continue to move forward like this with ur such a great writings. My best wishes are always with you dear ladyπŸ’•β€οΈπŸ˜… i thank you for making us read of your this amazing article πŸ‘β€οΈπŸ€—πŸ™‚

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      2. Each and every of your comments are giving me a boost of confidence. You are really an awesome lady who have great heart to appreciate and motivate others through your words. Thanks a lot dear Sonal. This means a lot. Much love.πŸ’•πŸ˜β™₯️

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      3. My words will never lose yourself ….. trust me…. it will olways increase your confidence…dear lady. I’ll be supporting you olways…. my dear Tushara ❀️… … keep writing…πŸ’•πŸ˜˜β€οΈπŸŒΈπŸŒ±…..

        Lots of love❀️😍
        Sonal

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  5. The way you wrote about this issue is so perfect. Still our society is witnessing all this evil practices. Though government took some welfares to stop female foeticide it is happening in many regions of our country. Some incidents came to limelight but many such incidents were not even known to the world. The particular region of tamil nadu is having different methods to kill the female infants.
    What I liked the most in your blog is you wrote about the sole reason for killing the female problem.
    That should be treated first before taking steps to prevent foeticide. The problem would be solve only when the sole reasons were identified.

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  6. I liked the way you narrated this issue. Still this kinda evil practices were happening in our country. This very particular region of tamil nadu is having different methods to kill female infants.
    Some incidents came to limelight but many incidents were not even known to the worlds.This evils are happening in some corner of our country often.
    What I liked the most is that you dealt about the sole cause for female foeticide.To prevent this we should concentrate on the reason for this problem.

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    1. Thanks a lot Mitty for this precious commentπŸ˜ƒβ€οΈ. It means a lot. The idea you have shared here is absolutely right, even though the government put serious steps in stopping female foeticide, it still continues for the reason that whatever steps are taken women remains objectified. I think you are from India and could relate much to the points I told. Very happy that you liked this post and agree with my thoughts. The thoughts of readers is what makes this post soulful and useful. Once again thank you so much.πŸ€©πŸ’–πŸ₯°πŸ’ž

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      1. It’s my pleasure.
        Yeah, I am from Tamil nadu. Heard lot of cases like this from my childhood.I used to thought of reason behind this always. Here the people had strong belief that girl child is not benificial. Not just poor family even the upper class people also consider boy child as boon. This thought was inbuilt in the minds of people for long years. Hoping for better soon.

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      2. Oh God! This news is shocking! Even rich family find boys as a boon and girls as a curse? It’s really surprising and sad. I think rich will not have much trouble with that issue. Then it is of no surprise that poor do such deeds. Your comment is very precious and needed one for this post because you are from Tamil Nadu and this incident too is reported from Madhurai, Tamil Nadu. Your comments gave a first hand report to this post and it means a lot. Thank you very much.πŸ€©πŸ˜ƒπŸ₯°πŸ’–

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      3. The gender bias was inbuilt in many minds of people. They consider male child as their saviour that is the reason for all.
        Now this things are changing gradually in some extent. Yet, this evils are not completely eradicated.
        I too heard that madurai incident. Wish this should change soon.

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  7. Oh my god!!! Is it true? Killed a child because of gender πŸ™„ when these people are going to use their common sense section in their brain 😐. It’s disheartening to read itself. Why on earth a girl kid have to be killed because of its gender? 😳 What if it is a boy kid and turns out to be a girl all of a sudden? πŸ€” I still think they’ll kill. They cannot be changed, but we can, the little change we make around us the little generation we create without all this nonsense in their head, we create a new world.. Thanks for sharing this Olivia, I don’t have read news and I’m glad that I don’t read. And appreciate your point of view and support ✨✍️

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    1. Yeah, this is a real incident occurred in South India, Madhurai, Tamil Nadu. Are you from South India?πŸ€” I heard this incident from a news channel and felt outclassed. Whether such things occurs at present, in this modern world too! Hard to believe.πŸ˜“This is the 2nd incident reported in Tamil Nadu. It’s better that you didn’t noticed the news. It’s heart breaking. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts.πŸ€©πŸ’ž Let’s hope the people will change.😊

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      1. Oh my god, that sad. Oh come on I’m from South IndiaπŸ˜‚. I just don’t watch news, because it disturbs me a lot and heartbreaking and yes, that’s why I avoid it. Let’s hope people will change ✨

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      2. That’s a good step. I always avoid news channels to the maximum level because of its tragic outlook. This news went accidentally in to my notice. Well it may be for good. I could write this post atleast.πŸ˜… Oh! You are from South India? Which state you belong to?πŸ€”

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      3. I’m actually from Kanniyakumari, pretty close to Kerala, now resides at chennai ☺️ it’s good you have got to know an information and wrote a brilliant article about itβœ¨πŸ‘Œ

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      4. Luckily I’m from that place, I’m always in love with that place for all that beauty nature has for us. One day I’ll definitely go back πŸ˜‰ not sure when 😐 reality holds us back in Chennai now. ☺️ Happy Blogging ✨

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  8. Tushara, the only thing which can change the mindset is that we should give the right direction to our boys and girls both. Education is not enough to change people. They just learn to read and write. Kids should be able to think with logic, rather than just following old rituals blindly just because their parents followed.

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    1. You have said what I really missed to add in this post. This comment is such a worthful one that it must be actually a soul part of this post. Very happy to read this valuable comment. It means a lot. Thanks for this Deeksha🀩❀️

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  9. I read the madhurai incident and it is a proud moment for all of us.

    They murdered me. Not for who I am, but for what I am. In the name of my gender and the possible headaches my gender create to a poor family who already had 3 girl children prior to me.

    These lines are so true Tushara!

    There have also been trends on the internet regarding fake feminism. People who think that feminism is bad that girls don’t experience discrimination now a days which I think is wrong. Every gender is experiencing discrimination.

    We need to stop objectifying women.

    This is an Important post!!!🌻🌻🌻🌻

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  10. That’s an incredible post Tushara, so much important. The society needs to change, and for that to happen, the constituent factors need to change. I am just speechless. I don’t know what to say. It might be easy to say but.. I don’t know when will this change. I hope soon.

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    1. Yeah, that is it. It’s easy to say but difficult to happen. Let’s hope for the best. Thanks a lot dear Ramyani for stopping by. Your comment means a lot. πŸ˜β€οΈπŸ’

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  11. Tushara you have articulated convincingly on the horrors of humanity violating nature’s laws by ending the life of the newborn girl child πŸ˜” I’m sure your followers will spread the message through your writings.
    Regards.

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  12. In this grand scheme of things you’ll get an A+ for effort. Where exactly you misplaced us was first on your specifics. You know, it is said, details make or break the argument.. And that couldn’t be much more accurate in this article. Having said that, allow me tell you just what did deliver the results. The text can be rather persuasive and that is possibly why I am making the effort to opine. I do not make it a regular habit of doing that. Secondly, even though I can certainly see a leaps in reason you come up with, I am not really confident of just how you seem to unite the points that make the final result. For the moment I shall yield to your issue however trust in the near future you actually connect your dots better.

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  13. Precisely written. Your facts are just too real. And to be honest, all of us are actually God’s beautiful creation and it’s just not fair sometimes how people used to discriminate genders. Your view on this issue was an eye-opening to all the parents out there! Keep the good work. Will be reading a lot more of your readings soonπŸ’―

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